Obituaries, funeral services, grave maintenance fees: Germany has an array of laws and traditions when it comes to death and burial. But new trends are bringing change.
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R.I.P.: German funeral rites
Germany has strict burial laws and quite a few funeral traditions, from mandatory coffins to the time-honored "corpse snack." DW gives you the lowdown on established popular conventions, as well as the newest trends.
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Life is finite
In 2021, 1,023,723 people died in Germany, according to the Statista statistics platform, compared to 985,572 the year before. Burial in a cemetery is obligatory almost everywhere in Germany, but burial practices are changing, often leaving large grassy areas between traditional plots, which are not permanent but leased for a period of 15 to 20 years at a time — leases often are not renewed.
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Special space
Hamburg's Ohlsdorf Cemetery, the world's largest park cemetery, offers a partially covered space for mourners: The "station for grief." People can leave flowers, sit and contemplate, or grab colored chalk and write or draw on the walls. Surrounded by hearts, one of the messages reads "Du fehlst" — missing you.
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Fewer traditional burials
With steep burial costs and declining interest in investing in and tending to family plots, Germans particularly in urban areas are increasingly opting for a less expensive option: cremation. Even here, a coffin or other container is a requirement, since Ccemated remains can't simply be scattered in your backyard. They must be sealed in an urn and buried in a cemetery or designated forest.
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End-of-life choice
Sealed, yet decorative ceramic, metal, wood or biodegradable urns hold the remains of more than one out of two deceased people in Germany, with a much higher percentage in cities. In 2015, Germany's smallest state, Bremen, became the only one to liberalize the rule that stipulates burial in a cemetery. It began allowing a loved one's ashes to be scattered or buried in one's own back yard.
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Back to the roots
Germans have also taken to the woodland burial, where a wooden or biodegradable urn is buried among the roots of a tree in a designated area of specifically approved forests. No individual care is required, no flowers or candles are allowed — it's just nature and peace and quiet.
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DIY coffin
Building your own casket can be therapeutic. Lydia Röder (r), head of an outpatient hospice service, and artist Anna Adam offer workshops. Röder argues that "a coffin is not just an ordinary box, but an important piece of furniture in our lives." A handmade casket takes four square meters of lumber — and at a few hundred euros, it's cheaper than buying a casket at upwards of €1,000 ($1,150).
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Public viewing
Before funerals, private or public viewings at funeral homes with the casket open or closed were common in many countries, but not so much in Germany. Neither is the practice of embalming. Moreover, in Germany the term "public viewing" has a very different meaning, standing for watching sports events or live concerts on a large screen in a public area, usually in a big crowd.
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Condolences and sympathy
Deutsche Post issues special stamps for traditional condolence letters and death notices. Instead of or along with a newspaper obituary, the bereaved often send personal notices in the mail, notifying the reader of the time and place of a funeral or memorial service. People are also told whether flower arrangements are welcome, or whether the bereaved prefer donations, for instance to a hospice.
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Grieve, socialize and eat
After a funeral or memorial service, mourners — family and close friends, usually by invitation only — gather in a restaurant nearby to socialize, share memories and have a bite to eat. A traditional "Leichenschmaus" (literally, corpse feast) snack includes coffee, a fortifying cup of broth, sandwiches and almost always some variety of sheet cake, for instance, streusel cake (above).
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Learning the trade
In 2005, Germany opened a federal training center for future funeral directors in the Bavarian town of Münnerstadt. In practice and theory, trainees spend three years learning the ins and outs of the trade, including how to counsel families, make funeral arrangements and prepare bodies for burial. Undertakers from as far away as China and Russia have taken advanced classes at the German academy.
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Practical aspects
Future undertakers learn how to operate special excavators to dig graves — you don't want walls to collapse or tombstones to topple — and how to bury an urn at Germany's only practice cemetery was set up in 1994 near the center of the town of Münnerstadt by the Bavarian Undertakers Association.
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Sepulchural culture
Germany has a museum devoted entirely to death in all its facets: the Museum of Sepulchral Culture in Kassel. It displays caskets and hearses, art, and traditional and contemporary product design spanning the centuries. The curators say visiting the unique museum that opened in 1992 is "all about life." The above exhibit shows an 1880 funeral carriage and a 1978 hearse in the museum courtyard.
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Deciding on an urn or casket, signing a contract for grave plot maintenance, selecting funeral speeches, organizing the memorial service, sending out obituaries individually or getting them printed in the newspaper: The bereaved have a lot to decide and take care of after a loved one's death. Before the coronovirus pandemic, close to 1 million people died in Germany every year.
At the same time, cemeteries increasingly face vast, unused spaces, as many graves — which are not considered to be property in Germany but are rented — free up after a certain number of years.
Depending on the environment and soil conditions, local cemetery administrations decide on the length of the lease of a grave, which varies throughout Germany; after all, they do want to allow enough time for a body to decompose properly. In some instances, families can renew leases indefinitely, of course.
But in the case of single gravesites that are not renewed after that "rest period" has expired, the gravesite is cleared — and can be reused. If it is not needed, the area is usually turned into a lawn.
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More cremations than caskets
Two major trends have been changing German funeral culture these past years. There's a desire for individual funeral services that do justice to the life of the deceased and family and economic considerations that are increasingly key when deciding on types of burial, gravesites and grave maintenance, according to Simon J. Walter of the Düsseldorf-based German Funeral Culture Foundation.
The ratio of cremation to casket burial is now 75 to 25 across Germany, the expert told DW.
Cemeteries are still important public places of mourning, he says, but they need to be rethought, with much more of a focus on the needs of the bereaved.
Individualized send-off
Some model cemeteries in Germany, including Europe's largest cemetery in Hamburg-Ohlsdorf, already cater to people's special funeral wishes and offer a wide array of burial variations, Walter says.
For the most part, however, German cemeteries with their many rules and regulations are inflexible, he adds. "Cemeteries fulfill important functions in our communities and these should be much more in the focus of the public," Walter argues, saying he would like to see a broad debate about the current problems, but above all about the potential, of the cemetery.
Through the cremation trend and an increase in burials that don't need a cemetery at all — such as burials at sea or in forests — many German cemeteries are now finding themselves with large unused spaces on their hands. After all, a gravesite for an urn is considerably smaller than for a casket.
QR memorials
Large, park-like communal gravesite areas which are maintenance-free — unusual in a country where families typically rent a plot for 20 to 30 years and are responsible for its often pricey upkeep — are also increasingly popular in Germany. There, a loved one's individual gravesite may not be defined or marked, but mourners definitely have a place to commemorate them.
Of course, some traditions endure, including the funeral service and a reception afterward — only the framework has changed, according to Walter. He argues that mourners increasingly opt for a "tailor-made farewell with traditional elements."
That was particularly apparent in the first year and a half of the coronavirus pandemic when there were drastic restrictions on the number of attendees at funerals and farewells.
However, the situation during the pandemic gave digital developments in funeral and mourning culture a boost. These days, invitations to funerals or death notices are sometimes sent via messaging apps. There are also digital places of mourning, and QR codes on gravestones — some funeral home directors even stream the entire funeral service or record it for relatives who couldn't come to the service.